As a new year begins, so does the idea of needing to rebuild one’s life because someone who was a central figure within the past life and was a huge participant is no longer. This is where fear may set in with the unknown. When a person has been used to being a part of a dynamic duo it may appear daunting, even overwhelming, to now have to make all the decisions that were shared. This is also when loneliness may present itself as a huge challenge. Someone has well said that life is formed in relationships; to others, to nature, and to oneself. A new beginning is the opportunity and possibly also a challenge to build new relationships and strengthen existing ones.
The truly important accomplishments in a life involve relationships, being a positive influence for good in another’s life, especially when that influence has or is directing someone toward righteousness. We may feel lost because we second guess ourselves if our life had meaning or if our life has any purpose now. The writer in Ecclesiastes also wondered about this. It is a universal struggle, to wonder about our life, where we have been, and where we are heading or where we should go from here. It is not always easy to build anew a life that is very different from the old life left behind. We may feel guilty that if we had said or done something different perhaps our life would have a different outcome.
What is important is to focus on relationships now. We cannot change the past, but we can improve on the future. With the help and support of family, friends, and others that we allow to walk with us in our journey with grief, we can begin to build our life anew. This is Sunrise Aftercare, firstname.lastname@example.org.