Holidays are associated with the gathering of family together. While it may involve the giving and exchanging of gifts, the festive attitude is usually very positive. There also is planning that is involved and the degree of this depends upon the number of people that will participate and how elaborate the get- together. Involved in these gatherings may be years of traditions of how to prepare and what exactly is to consist during the gathering. The food that is cooked, the decorations that are hung, the place of the gathering, who is to do the cooking, and those who are invited. My youthful memories of Thanksgiving and the December holiday, which involved decorating the inside of the house, the setting up of a real fir tree with tinsel, lights, and decorative bulbs, a skirt draped over and around the tree stand with wrapped presents also surrounding and on top of the skirt drapery.
For some, the approach of holiday traditions is one of dread. Nothing of the prior traditions is something they look forward to participating in any way. Nothing in the festive spirit, not the planning, not the decorating, not the attendance, and not the place are part of a desired event. Some people are perplexed as to what to do, while others want to change the traditions, but what and how? In my judgment nothing exists that cannot be changed for the individual. A person may not be able to change tradition for a group, but certainly can for themselves. One may choose to go to a different place and totally change the environment and circumstances, or one could choose to discontinue any tradition at all. Of course, it depends how strong individually a person is whether they can do this alone or with support. There are no set rules, you develop them. Make your own tradition. This is Sunrise Aftercare, firstname.lastname@example.org.